People, Stop Looking Up To People

I guess Josh Duggar is all the hype again. We all got over it and forgave him until we realized that he is worse than we originally thought. So I guess some of us are taking our forgiveness back, if that’s even a thing. Now we know that he really is a dirty rotten scoundrel, and so now I guess it’s time for us all to talk about how sorry we feel for Anna and how she should just divorce him to protect herself and the kids, and then go into how “if he would have just been raised right, and his parents had not been so over-protective, then this wouldn’t have happened.”

Honestly, people? I really just want to tell everyone to sit down, shut up and mind their own business, but I realized that that might be a little harsh, so here’s what I have to say instead:

I didn’t want to write about him because #1, I already did, #2, what Josh Duggar does is really none of my business (or yours), and #3, that’s what everyone is writing about and I hate following the crowd. Despite that, I decided to wait until the hype died down a little to see if we can actually learn something from this situation.

When I first heard the new news, I was disappointed. I mean, who wouldn’t be? We thought this guy repented years ago of his sin, and a lot of us tried to cover up for him and shout the “Hey, be quiet, we all sin!” message.

While I still think that message is applicable, I learned something else. We don’t need to bash Josh, we need to forget about Josh and his troubles and mind our own business. I mean that quite literally. Stop worrying about Josh, and how his decisions have affected his family, and start focusing on how YOUR decisions are affecting YOUR family. Yes it’s sad, yes it’s wrong, but seriously, if there is anything that we can learn from this it is this: mind your own business and focus on your own walk with Christ.

While I stand by my original statement that Christ can forgive ANY sin. His blood is more powerful than any sin that we can commit, and that Josh can still be forgiven, I have learned something else.

I made a mistake. I wanted to look up to someone, I wanted to give someone the benefit of the doubt, I wanted to believe that people are good. But someone failed. Another sinner sinned. While I don’t think this should surprise us, it does.

After I thought about it, I realized that my disappointment is my own fault. Not because of the whole “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me” idea, but because I was looking up to someone that I shouldn’t have even been watching. I let my gaze be fixed on something other than the prize, and boom. Disappointment. I was watching the walk and works of other Christians when I should have been looking to Jesus. That was my mistake. Through this mistake, I have learned something that I think we all need to learn.

Stop looking up to people.

People fail. Always have, and always will. Hater’s gonna hate; sinner’s gonna sin. That’s just how it is.

There is a difference between making a role model of someone and admiring the work of God in someone’s life. We can be encouraged by the work that God is doing in someone’s life and rejoice in sanctification and redemption, but that’s it. We should only admire the work of God. Not the person.

We should never think “Oh, if only our family could be like so-and-so’s family”, or “oh, son, if only you could act as well as – ..” or “Oh, look how well this family gets along.”


My dad has been telling me something for years, and it has just now begun to sink in (you’re gonna be proud, dad!):

Other people are not our standard.

I used to say things like “But look at that family!” and dad would always respond with “I don’t compare my family to other families. I only compare my family to Jesus, and we’re falling short.”

I don’t care what the neighbors are doing, we aren’t trying to be like the neighbors. The only thing I care about is who Jesus is, because that’s who I am ultimately trying to be like. Jesus is my only role model.

Why do all of these people keep failing and falling? Because Jesus wants you to look to Him and only Him. He doesn’t want you to try and be like the Duggars, He wants you to try and be like Him.

So stop making role-models and standards out of sinners because you don’t want to be like a sinner. You’re already a sinner. The only person you want to be like is Jesus because Jesus is the only person who will never fail, nor disappoint.

3 thoughts on “People, Stop Looking Up To People

  1. This was so well written Madison. It took me a while to process through the news about Josh, and I did end up coming to many of the same conclusions. What your dad said, “other ppl are not our standard.” Such a good reminder!


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